Fathers, I want to challenge you to insure that your children see you “handling God’s Word.” See to it that, from the time they are infants, they see you with your Bible open on your lap, at a set time each day, studying so you can mature personally and praying… for them and their mother; otherwise, how will they be certain you value either, or that your heart is focused on doing it God’s way? and otherwise, why would you expect them to do the right thing in the decisions they face each day? Here is the message: If it is not important enough for Dad to invest his time, then I don’t need it… either.
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord (Eph 6:4). Fathers, do not provoke your children; lest they become discouraged (Col 3:21). A Hebrew reading of the verse in Ephesians might be ”And fathers (patriarchs) do not provoke your children to anger by not nurturing them with teaching that carries an ethical point concerning the Name (God) and His reproof (His Word).”
So fathers, don’t exasperate and provoke your children. Do not expect them to conform to your expectations of them while you refuse God’s requirements of you. Children need definite instruction to learn definite boundaries. They need God’s Word first, directing your words; your words are subject to change depending on the demands placed on you by the culture, or peers, or subtle things like the mood you are in at the moment. By contrast, “God’s Word is forever settled.” (Ps 119:89*)
Most children want to imitate (and please) their father. They are imitators of such things as your speech – the phrases and terms you use in speaking to them, and have been known to reveal what really goes on in the home by their own version of what they hear you say. They imitate your social behavior; for example, parents as a rule do not want their children to use drugs or participate in drug-related activities but keepfor themselves a fully-stocked cabinet of their own relaxers, enhancers, and spirits … bottled or RX.
Children are imitators. If you teach them your spirituality is a Sunday phenomenon, they will go you one better and not only kick back to YOUR level but hedge on even that. Children are imitators, and children who have NOT been taught God’s Word have no way to protect or defend themselves from the pull of the culture when they are out of your sight, and the culture is definitely pulling away.
The Apostle Paul likened his relationship with those who received his teaching to that of a father, using two different words for father” ‘avot’ and ‘abba.’ He stated the purpose of his teaching was not to harm or shame the people, but rather to encourage them as he would his own children.
• Paul explained that the people may have many teachers, talking to them about spiritual things and offering spiritual guidance, but that they did not have many spiritual fathers (patriarchs, Heb. avot); Teaching and fathering do not necessarily overlap.
• He said that he, through the Good News of Redemption had become a father (Heb. abba) to them, and it was that relationship to them as his children in which he could say: “Be imitators of me.” The word most often associated with our relationship to God, our Father, is ‘Abba.’
A father’s children are the first disciples he makes, and a father is the first spiritual father his children have. Fathers who do not disciple their children spiritually usually do not disciple anyone else either, though making disciples is the primary fruit producing requirement of every believer. Knowing God, of course is the believer’s primary calling.
Relationship. The local church cannot possibly fulfill the task of primary teacher of children, parents are given that responsibility. The church can, however build upon training in Scripture a child receives at home, and the parent charged with ultimate accountability before God to see to, and arrange for instruction and spiritual training (governing) in the home is the father. Fathers lead; families follow.
Nations and peoples are under a righteous judgment right now for abdicating in this area. Spiritually shallow children are the fruit of spiritually absent fathers. Children are spiritually shallow because dad is spiritually shallow.
Start now, before schools begin a new year and you SEND YOUR CHILDREN OUT into a world of philosophies that will destroy them before they are old enough to save themselves. Open your Bible, read aloud to your children; explain the passage from the perspective of God’s nature and His will for His people. Then apply if ethically to your daily situation. Help them do the same.
Make a plan. Same time, same chair, every day. Set it up so that you cannot get out of it. Don’t LET yourself out of it. If you will do this, God will not let you fail. He is present with you, speaking though you. Trust Him. Trust yourself. Just do it.
Let’s Pray:
Father, I recognize the authority of Your Word for my life and the lives of my wife and children. I honor you today with my commitment to meet You at a family altar, demonstrating my dependence upon You and humbling myself before you in the presence of my children. Lord, I ask, in Jesus’ Name for your help. Amen.
Family Altar
I believe this is prophetic word. The Lord is contending with us to establish Him as the center of our homes. Please don’t put this off. We have been warned, “The secret power of lawlessness is already at work.” (2 Thess 2:7*) Lawlessness in a Christian home can be removed by replacing wrong spirits with God’s Spirit of order and obedience. That must begin with Dad first; then Dad and Mom together, otherwise, Dad is not the spiritual leader; someone else is. The Spirit you lead with flows into the children and outward from the home into the community. Before Christianity is real however, before it can flow outward, God’s Spirit must be the center; in truth, not as pretense. No Christian is exempt. (Dt 6:2*)
Altar
A place of sacrifice
Place of humility
Place of allowing the Lord to be the center
The place we gather as a family
When there are good times – we praise and thank Him
When we are facing a challenge – we bond together and call on Him
The Lord bonds around us
He bonds over us
The three-fold cord of the husband, wife and the Lord is not easily broken.
— Ecclesiastes 4:12
“….And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”(KJV)
Note
Teshuvah is Hebrew, meaning to return; some also apply the concept of repentance to the word, giving a fuller idea of turning, a re-turn, and making things right that are NOT right.On the Jewish calendar, Teshuvah is the 40-day period prior to Yom Kippur, (Day of Atonement) the most sober day on the Jewish calendar marked by repentance and making things right with God and man. In 2007 Yom Kippur falls on September 22 and Teshuvah begins 40 days before, on August 23.
Psalm 119:89
Deuteronomy 6:2
2 Thessalonians 2:7