Challenges draw us to confront the elements involved. With the confrontation, recurring patterns emerge, each strengthened to occur yet again. The pattern tells a story of personal strengths and weaknesses.
In the same way that history repeats itself, our lives create a history of patterns—cycles. While we should definitely learn from past experiences, refuse to mentally re-entertain them again and again. Learn from them and move on. Refuse to hear the same old harmful messages that come against you—refuse their oppressive, hypnotic influence.
Ignoring history insures its repeat; ignoring our own behavior and response patterns insures their repeat. Every disease has a spiritual root, every hurtful act perpetrated on another has consequences and every hurtful act received marks us.
Step away from the contest.
Discern destructive elements.
Do not sugar-coat the facts.
Now, step back in and break the cycle.